Accepting What You Can and Cannot Change
I want to ask you a few questions and have you consider them for a moment:
Do you have the ability to accept the things you can change and the things you cannot change?
Do you have the ability to accept what other people can change?
Do you accept that you are who you are, regardless of what others think?
Are you open and accepting to change, even when it is not in your control?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are at least on the track of acceptance and this is a great start improving your personal life. If you are willing to accept things as they are you can be humble, caring, compassionate, considerate, tough, honest, truthful, and so much more. When you can accept things in life as they are, you begin to feel a level of empowerment that most people don’t. It appears the opposite would be true, but in fact the more you can open up to, the better you are at understanding acceptance, understanding what you have control of and what you have no control over. In my estimation, this is where true power lies. It clears your mind and allows you to focus on the key things that matter most… It’s a very liberating feeling, acceptance.
Let me give you an example. I will assume many of you have flown in an airplane at least once. Many people are afraid to fly or scared of flying. They think it is too dangerous, or worse, they think the plane will crash or they will die. Many people will be miserable when flying, scared before getting on a plane, or look to self-medicate (I used to do this) before flying. I would never fly sober when I was younger. I needed to take the edge off, or so I thought. I had no control, how was I going to deal with this, what if this or that happened? All these ridiculous scenarios would run through my head… Here’s the trick though; you have no control over that plane. You are not part of the crew, maintenance, ground control, or anything else. Once you realize there is nothing you can do, there is no need to panic, no need to worry, no need to get upset, you can sit back and enjoy the ride and make a peace with it all ( okay, that might be a bit heavy for a plane ride, but for some, I know there are a lot of prayers going up-ha) . Accepting this and really understanding that this was out of my control allowed me to relax, to not worry and enjoy the ride.
I would encourage you to do the same thing with your life; Enjoy the ride.
Now, there many tasks, processes, “things”, not to mention emotions that are in your control, and you need to learn accept these as well. You must take the responsibility to live a life that is in your control. I am not saying everyone has to do the most remarkable things (it’s not a bad idea though) but you need to take responsibility. Accepting this fact will help you learn to focus on the things you have control over and you will begin to see positive changes in all areas of your life. When you can accept things and understand what is in your control and what is not, you will quickly become aware of the power you truly possess.
When you are in control you can see more clearly. When you are in control you will be at ease. And when you can accept those things you can change, and those things you cannot change, you will find that ability to focus on the truly important people and goals that are in your life. Learn acceptance and a whole new world of personal development and satisfaction will be awakened within you.